What to do with a World of Warcraft obsessed gamer?

My husband started playing WoW 7 months ago.He is not completely obsessed as probably some teenagers are but nevertheless it's hard to bear. He lost all his friends, and almost lost me.He still works at least but I don't think this is enough.The game consumes all his spare time.I started to worry when 3 weeks ago our dog gave birth for a first time and he didn't stay to watch, he had to play. Then the other night I was feeling pretty rough and he didn't come to check how I am even once. His explanation always is " If I can't help with anything why should I bother?". Please respond if you have experience with computer games addiction.What to do with a World of Warcraft obsessed gamer?Take the fuses out of the plugs, hide the handsets, parade naked in between him and the screen?



I divorced my fisrt husband because he ignored me, threaten him with that one too!



Also, beat him at his own game, you get obsessed with Yahoo Answers and do a 360 page about how you cope with it! then you wont have time for him when he needs itWhat to do with a World of Warcraft obsessed gamer?
I am a gamer but I always take care of business first. Once he gets to level 60 he should get bored with it.What to do with a World of Warcraft obsessed gamer?Oh wow sorry mate but i think you should direct your question in the family relationships bit. I dont think it is a direct IT problem.
I went through this, every spare hour was consumed with computer games. I was single at the time I then got involved in a relationship and it carried on and on. It is an addiction.



in the end it took a "it's me or the computer" type ultimatum from my wife.



I almost missed the first few months of my first child's life



I would be happy to give you more hints and tips as an ex-addictWhat to do with a World of Warcraft obsessed gamer?I was obsessed with games too. Each time I got over it because after a few months, I did something away from the PC for a few days instead... All it takes is a couple of days away from the game for the immediacy of your position in the fantasy world to start to fade...



good luck.What to do with a World of Warcraft obsessed gamer?
Hi.



My other half too play wow. He is on there every day and especially on the night for all 'raids' as they call them.



I too feel flustrated that he rather spend hours upon hours on there, rather than taking me out or doing something nice together.



I tried ultimatums and they dont work. The trouble is they know your not going to throw them out. I know its hard.



Unfortunately, until we perpare to knuckle down and mean what we say... perhaps throwing him out is not a bad idea after all.



The only trouble with that is trying to make him listen and leave as he grinds for more gold.



SIGH!
All this is indicative of an obsessive compulsive psychological symptom of depressive escapism. He is obviously in a deep depression from stress, and has found an escape door in his mind.



You can't fix this, it needs PROFESSIONAL help!



Get some, at least for yourself, so you can help heal him. Or, so you can at least understand the problem enough to help him heal!



At the least, with professional help, you would be able to comprehend what is gooing on here, and cope with it, or, make the lucid decision to stay, or, to go.



He is exactly where you were, a week ago, "rough", but, you aren't helping him, or yourself, yet!



Best wishes!What to do with a World of Warcraft obsessed gamer?
Try to show him real magic. Than he won't need the artifical one anymore.
he'll get bored once he's completed it. i've been the same 18 hours straight playing medal of honor online. the morning i woke up with my face stuck to the keyboard was the warning i should stop. but then i discovered manhunt and the cycle continued. his playing games is a way to escape from the day to day life of working, he's not bored with you he just needs to unwind and space out inside his own head. he'll come back down to earth soon enough.
Ask him to play untill the computer explode HEHEHE.
That is quite bad. It's the very reason I didn't buy WoW. I'm a keen gamer, but I've got my hands full with all the single player games out there, the ones that actually END, without embarking on an ever-growing, ever-evolving MMORPG which seems almost a complete substitute for real life (soon your PC will be preparing meals for you, but only if you buy them in WoW! and you'll get bad meals if you're a low level, so there's an incentive to level up to get better grub!)



I was told by everyone that owned it that 'it destroys your life, taking away all your free time and gradually eroding the time you shouldn't have free'. They said this with a grin as though it was a good thing and turned back to the PC screen.



I think you should dress up as a dark elf and do a sexy dance to entice him away from the PC... then sabotage it! Say it was a Level 13 destruction curse of doom and he can only counter it by spending the next 100 years in the real world. Or something.
I use to be a game addict, I would be on the computer until 1am every morning or sometimes longer. My wife would comment on it but to be honest it went in one ear and straight out the other, that was until I heard strange noises coming from upstairs, I went to investigate and found my wife impaled on the biggest "toy" I had ever seen. She said she no longer wanted sex with me, she said I had my toy and now she hers. Guess what, I haven't played on the computer for 3 years, but the sex is great.

Good luck..
I had the same problem as you describe right now.



My bf didn't look after me at all... he lost his friend...lost his job ... need I say more.



I kinda forced him not to play for a week (hehe taking the cable is the best thing you can do for that :p ) and we talked about this. He admitted his behavior was problematic and started to change.



Now almost 4 months later he still plays for like 15 -20 hrs a week but I can understand that. He plays in a high-end raiding guild and they have raiding days (4 in this guild) where he has to be online for like 4 hours. I don't mind ... it's his hobby and I also put that many hours in my hobby's.



what I'm trying to say is ... try to let him 'see' what's is going on. Try to let him know it can't go on any more if he don't change.